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Overcoming Infidelity

How To Overcome Infidelity: Know Why We Are Unfaithful

I insist that infidelity is a behavior that depends on numerous factors; all of them are decisive in how to overcome infidelity. On the one hand, the way of being of each person, the ability to control their desires and impulses, self-esteem, expectations, degree of satisfaction, experiences that have been lived throughout life, learning … On the other hand, it depends on the opportunities to meet new people to be attracted to, the social environment, the partner’s style of commitment, satisfaction in the relationship, unmet needs (sexual or emotional), etc.

Unfaithful behavior can have different origins, and depending on them; it will be different how to overcome infidelity. Some of the most common reasons behind infidelity are:

The relationship is deteriorating. How many times have we heard, “the couple was already broken.” When the wishes and expectations that one has of her partner are not satisfied, it is more likely that those wishes may appear towards another person. Let’s say that the predisposition to meet someone is favored.

The longing for passion and romantic love. Over time, the couple’s passion for bonding or attachment may be separated. Although the love continues, feelings of infatuation, desire, or other emotions that generate confusion may appear towards other people.

Find experiences or something that you do not have as a couple. Affection, attention, or sex that is not in the relationship.

Lack of stimulation or boredom. Whether the relationship is satisfactory or not, at some point, one of the parties simply gets bored and seeks other sensations. The novel reactivates and satisfies.

Some beliefs (erroneous or not) that some people have, such as that to save a lasting relationship a specific meeting is beneficial since it gives life to “a couple without incentives”

The love affair. A slip to recover old emotions present in the infatuation phase makes us feel young again and above all desired or desired.

The game of seduction. Those who feel this tendency like to “fool around” to reinforce their self-concept, and in this “territory,” it is easy to go on to infidelity.

Insecurity or low self-esteem. The unfaithful person feels inferior in

terms of their partner: less attractive or attractive. Infidelity serves to reaffirm your value, raise self-esteem by considering yourself desirable.

Retaliation. Some people cheat only as revenge for their partner’s behavior that they consider unfair, in the face of suspicion, or discovered infidelity.

Having someone in the “bedroom. ” People with a dependent pattern, when they begin to perceive that things are not going well in their relationship, they look for another person, to be able to replace their current partner. And this can lead to repeated infidelities by not finding the right replacement.

The desire to have a partner, when yours no longer exists, and due to fear or inability to close and leave a relationship, go hand in hand.

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